Praise, appreciation, positive words of encouragement (i.e positive strokes) can do wonders. It doesn’t cost anything to the giver but the receiver benefits by it enormously. It motivates the person with enthusiasm. He/she is likely to put in still more efforts and become highly successful.
On the other hand only pointing other’s mistakes, rebuking or criticizing (i.e. negative strokes) will surely discourage the person, dampen his/her spirits and shake the confidence. The net impact will be to slow down the person and the outcome will be significantly lower degrees of achievements.
In this context the story of the great inventor Thomas Edison is quite relevant and well known. The principal of the school where Thomas Edison studied as a child wrote a confidential letter to his mother declaring him to be a slow learner and unfit to continue the schooling. But Thomas Edison’s mother knew the enormous damage it would do to the morale of her son. And so instead of revealing what the principal wrote, she encouraged her son by saying that the letter from the principal said that he was a genius and the school was too limited a place of learning for him and she herself would take charge of educating him.
So be generous in your praise, appreciation and encouragement of others. This way you are helping the other persons to boost their morale and motivational levels. It, in turn, helps you too. You start looking at the world with lot more positivity and your OKness stature improves. Praising others is ultimately a win-win game.
Shower your praise, appreciation and encouragement not only on your professional colleagues, business associates and the persons in your social circle but do it more to your spouse, children, grand children and the other near and dear ones.
Here are some more suggestions for the related reading :
Positive Strokes http://positive-strokes.blogspot.in/
Transaction Analysis- TA http://transaction-analysis.blogspot.com/
Life Positions and OKness http://life-positions.blogspot.com/