(Note from the authors of the article: This post and the other posts related and linked to this post have become so popular with our readers that the authors have now written and published a book (in printed format as well as an eBook) based on these articles. The book is titled “The Romance of Intimacy”. Anyone desirous of building intimacy with his/her partner in marriage or in any other relationship will love to possess this book and make use of it.
You can obtain this title “The Romance of Intimacy” as an eBook and in the printed format from Amazon).
You may like to read related literature on family management and management of married life on the following URLs:
(Family Management) http://family-harmony.blogspot.com/
(Marriage Counseling) http://marriage-counsel.blogspot.com/
(Mission statement for Families) http://marriage-counsel.blogspot.com/2011/03/mission-statement-for-families.html
(Life Management and Life Skills: Life Time Model) http://family-harmony.blogspot.com/2011/07/life-time-model-and-life-skills-life.html
(Do You Have the Right Kind of Skill Sets and Competencies to Run Your Marriage and Family Effectively?) http://family-harmony.blogspot.com/2011/03/do-you-have-right-kind-of-skill-sets.html
Need for Tutorials in Building Intimacy in Your Marriage
The fact of life is that you live with your parents and brothers and sisters for just about 15 to 20 years of your entire life. You live with your own children only for 15 to 20 years of your life. And you live with your spouse for around 60 years of your life if you got married at the age of 30 and you are going to live till your age of 90 years.
So isn’t it very obvious that you should invest more of your time and efforts in building up your married life? Don’t you think you need to do whatever it needs to keep up the relationship with your spouse and spruce it up further to new heights?
Over a period of time many of us get into a rut and forget what it needs to maintain and build up the relationship. So, here are some reminder lessons for you.
Here onwards each post on “Family Management” section of the blog will narrate one important lesson. Implement this lesson and practice it again and again till it becomes your habit and happens to you naturally.
The first tutorial “Give Positive Strokes to Your Spouse” was published at the URL: http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2011/10/06/family-management-building-intimacy-in-marriage-lesson-1/
The second tutorial “Demonstrate Your Love, Affection and Care towards Your Spouse” was published at the URL: http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2011/11/02/life-management-family-management-building-intimacy-in-marriage-lesson-2/
The third tutorial “Demonstrate Your Respect to Each Other” was published at the URL: http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2011/12/03/life-management-family-management-building-intimacy-in-marriage-lesson-3/
The fourth tutorial “Communicate a Lot” was published at the URL: http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2011/12/09/1691/
Here is your fifth tutorial. Do your homework now.
Lesson 5: Build Physical Intimacy
Practicing and making a habit of the first four lessons as summarized below facilitate carrying out the lesson 5 (the one described in this post) i.e. building physical intimacy.
Summarized below are the first four lessons of building intimacy in marriage:
- Praising and admiring your life partner every now and then for some reason or without any reason (Refer: lesson/tutorial 1 Give Positive Strokes to Your Spouse).
- Showering your love, affection and care on your spouse (Refer: lesson/tutorial 2 Demonstrate Your Love, Affection and Care towards Your Spouse).
- Respecting your spouse irrespective of any situation (Refer: lesson/tutorial 3 Demonstrate Your Respect to Each Other).
- Communicating a lot with your life partner (Refer: lesson/tutorial 4 Communicate a Lot).
Implementing the above-mentioned four habits will easily pave way for an enhanced, creative and blissful sexual relationship between husband and wife. Physical attraction and intimacy come naturally as a result of emotional intimacy and intellectual intimacy which you would achieve by practicing the first four lessons.
Sex is the vital part of married life and its active inclusion makes the married life complete, blissful and fun-filled. In no other legal or blood relationship sex plays any part. You get this privilege only as a married couple and you must use it fully for total happiness.
Apart from creating a fantastic bond between husband and wife, active sex (a good number of times in a week/month) has many advantages. Some of them are:
- You remain cheerful, calm and relaxed. This relieves the stresses. Thus it can fight depression.
- Intercourse makes one pleasantly tired and oxytocin that surges within your body works as a sedative. And then, you get good sound sleep.
- It burns calories. It provides a light exercise and can burn around 150 calories every half hour.
- It can protect your heart as it works like an aerobic exercise.
- It slows the ageing process due to secretion of hormones DHEA and oestrogen.
- Oxytocin (mentioned earlier) also acts as a natural painkiller.
- It can boost your immune system by production of antibody called immunoglobulin A.
- It enhances your overall self image and confidence.
Resort to frequent, scheduled and un-scheduled hugs and kisses and squeeze of hand. Make conscious efforts to hold hands even when you go out to movies or restaurants or any other events or walk together. It fills your environment with romance and excitement, a pre-requite for great sex life.
To derive enhanced pleasures out of physical intimacy, both husband and wife should talk about their preferences for the settings for love making and choose them accordingly: the dresses, the ambience of the place, new venues within home and away from home, a holiday, pre and post activities like a romantic dinner or movie or listening music or shopping or good combination of all of them etc.
They should enrich their knowledge of love making by reading together the related authentic literature. Since making love is a verb and therefore, a skill, it will need a good degree of practice to get a good handle on it. You will soon learn to like to communicate elaborately on how you wish to make love. It will be worthwhile using your creativity over a period of time for better results.
It requires both (husband and wife) to build up strong and intimate relationship in marriage; it cannot be a one sided affair to be done only by wife or only by husband. Therefore, both husband and wife should read this tutorial together and start practicing it simultaneously. Of course, it does not mean that if wife has yet not started husband should wait and not start it too or vice-versa. However, in this particular lesson (i.e. building physical intimacy), the husband should take the initiative and lead and the wife should fully support. Of course there is no harm if wife takes the lead and husband takes it in his stride as a mature and understanding person.
(Now all the posts related to building intimacy in relationships are available in a book form titled “The Romance of Intimacy”. You can obtain this book in its printed paperback format as well as an eBook from Amazon online)
For More Guidance, Assistance, Training and Consultation
Training in all the soft skills and various management functions/techniques is imparted by Prodcons Group’s Mr Shyam Bhatawdekar and/or Dr (Mrs) Kalpana Bhatawdekar, eminent management educationists, management consultants and trainers- par excellence, with distinction of having trained over 150,000 people from around 250 organizations.
Also refer: (Prodcons Group) http://prodcons-group.blogspot.com/, (Training Programs by Prodcons Group) http://training-development-function.blogspot.com/, (Productivity Consultants) http://productivity-consultants.blogspot.com/
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(Life Management: Competencies) http://knol.google.com/k/shyam-bhatawdekar/competency-matrix/6txz9nck6g3/4#
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