HSoftware (Putting HSoftware Model to Work for You)

In HSoftware model we learnt that four fundamental elements of HSoftware determine your effectiveness at any given point of time.

Just to refresh, these four elements are:

  • Values
  • Knowledge base
  • Paradigms
  • Will to do

More quality and quantity of these elements within you make you more effective.

These elements are acquired by the human beings from the environment from any of its entities and these can be acquired at any age.

Everyone is free to acquire them and anyone can acquire them. There is no restriction of any sort on any human being.

These four elements finally culminate into making a human being more skilled and more competent. Human beings develop and improve continuously their skills and competencies based on these four elements. Then they use these skills and competencies to perform all kinds of tasks and activities required to achieve the goals set by them for their personal, family, professional and social lives.

The more skilled and competent the human beings become by the acquisition of the four elements of HSoftware, the more effectively they are able to perform the tasks and activities and to achieve the resultant goals or objectives.

So how do we make this HSoftware model work for you? We give below certain doable recommendations:

  1. Set your short term, medium term, long germ and life time goals for your personal, family, professional and social life. The guidelines given below in serial number 2 through 30 are to help you acquire the right kind of HSoftware to make you effective to accomplish your chosen goals.
  2. Sharpen your desire to learn the right kind of values, knowledge and paradigms. Become a strong willed person.
  3. Learn about the various basic human values. These are not too many.
  4. Correct those values that you might have already formed but now you realize that they need review and correction.
  5. Formulate your own value structure that will guide you throughout your life. These values will normally not change under ordinary conditions. They are more permanent (as compared to the paradigms).
  6. Then always be guided by your values or principles.
  7. Do not waver from your values under the trying circumstances. You may face many dilemma situations in your life.
  8. There are principled paths guided by values and there are unprincipled paths without any value structure. Both run parallel to each other and never meet. Both may give success. But the principled path will always give you more overall effectiveness in your life. Unprincipled path may even destroy you completely.
  9. Knowledge is unending. It is enormous. Try to acquire as much knowledge as you can. It is extremely difficult to acquire all the knowledge.
  10. Therefore, start with the knowledge that is required for achieving the goals or objectives of your personal, family, professional and social life.
  11. You will need to acquire three types of knowledge: rational knowledge, emotional knowledge and spiritual knowledge pertaining to all the four spheres of your life- personal, family, professional and social life.
  12. New knowledge will emerge continually. No one can stop it. Your existing knowledge may become incorrect and obsolete over a period of time. So, keep acquiring new knowledge.
  13. Always look out for the most authentic sources of knowledge. Acquire knowledge only from the authentic sources or otherwise you are in a danger of assimilating incorrect or erroneous knowledge and related information
  14. Knowledge backed up and validated correctly by the relevant facts and figures, supported by experiments and real life results is likely to be more authentic. Other pieces of knowledge may be mere hearsay.
  15. Read a lot. Read every day. Read authentic literature. Do not waste your time reading inferior or erroneous literature.
  16. Attend courses, seminars and workshops to listen to the real experts to enhance your knowledge.
  17. Acquire knowledge to help you enhance and sharpen your “will power to do” or “will power to perform”.
  18. Often revise those concepts and their related details that are very important in life and may be difficult to understand and assimilate.
  19. Teach others what you learnt. Your learning will become more effective. You will get more clarity on the subject when you start teaching.
  20. Always be on look out for the implementation aspects of what you are learning so that you can implement the knowledge properly.
  21. Paradigms or your day-to-day thinking patterns guide you to take particular directions and steps towards accomplishing your various tasks and activities that ultimately steer you towards your goals or objectives. There are hundreds of them in your mind. Therefore these should be absolutely correct and up-to-date.
  22. You should derive your paradigms essentially from your values, knowledge base and related information base. Keep checking frequently to ensure that these three remain in consonance with each other.
  23. Since a repository or directory of all the latest paradigms is not available or published anywhere, keep your eyes and ears open to sense the new and emerging paradigms in all the spheres of life. Grasp them and internalize them.
  24. Keep introspecting the appropriateness or correctness of your paradigms on an on-going basis. Frequently correct your wrong paradigms or mindsets.
  25. Develop flexibility for accepting the correct paradigms even if they are quite in divergence with your existing mindsets.
  26. Develop those paradigms that will help you to sharpen your “will power to do” or “will power to perform”.
  27. Decide on the skills and competencies that will be required by you to effectively tackle the tasks and activities that will lead you to your goals and objectives.
  28. Use your values, knowledge and paradigms to learn, develop and master those skills and competencies. Practice them lots to achieve the highest level of expertise in them.
  29. Implement those skills and competencies to carry out your tasks and activities.
  30. Keep moving towards achieving your goals or objectives by applying your values, knowledge, paradigms, will power to do and skills/competencies- your effective HSoftware.

Related Posts (please read in the following order)

1. HSoftware (Human Beings: Hardware and Software): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/02/hsoftware/

2. HSoftware (Evey Human Being Is Unique): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/05/hsoftware-every-human-being-is-unique/

3. HSoftware (Why This Uniqueness?): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/07/hsoftware-why-this-uniqueness/

4. HSoftware (Uniqueness and Effectiveness): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/11/hsoftware-uniqueness-and-effectiveness/ 

5. HSoftware (Fundamental Constituents of HSoftware): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/19/hsoftware-fundamental-constituents-of-hsoftware/

6. HSoftware (More Correct HSoftware Gives Better Effectiveness) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/05/29/hsoftware-more-correct-hsoftware-gives-better-effectiveness/

7. HSoftware (Human Beliefs or Human Value Structure: First Element of HSoftware) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/06/09/hsoftware-human-beliefs-or-human-value-structure-first-element-of-hsoftware/

8. HSoftware (Knowledge and Information Base: Second Element of HSoftware)  http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/06/15/hsoftware-knowledge-and-information-base-second-element-of-hsoftware/

9. HSoftware (Paradigms, Mindsets or Thinking Patterns: Third Element of HSoftware)  http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/06/26/hsoftware-paradigms-mindsets-or-thinking-patterns-third-element-of-hsoftware/

10. HSoftware (More on Paradigms and Paradigm Shift) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/07/10/hsoftware-more-on-paradigms-and-paradigm-shift/

11. HSoftware (Willpower to Do: Fourth Element of HSoftware)   http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/07/26/hsoftware-willpower-to-do-fourth-element-of-hsoftware/

12. HSoftware (Acquisition of the HSoftware) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/08/06/hsoftware-acquisition-of-the-hsoftware/

13. HSoftware (Change for Better): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/08/20/hsoftware-change-for-better/

14. HSoftware (More on Change in Paradigms) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/08/27/hsoftware-more-on-change-in-paradigms/

15. HSoftware (Effectiveness: All about Willpower to Learn; Acquiring Values, Knowledge and Paradigms; Willpower to Do)  http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/09/08/hsoftware-effectiveness-all-about-willpower-to-learn-acquiring-values-knowledge-and-paradigms-willpower-to-do/

16. HSoftware (Levels of Competencies) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/09/24/hsoftware-levels-of-competencies/

17. HSoftware (Soft Skills- Applied Emotional Intelligence) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/10/22/hsoftware-soft-skills-applied-emotional-intelligence/

18. HSoftware (Competency Matrix: The Procedure for Competency Development and to Become Effective) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/11/08/hsoftware-competency-matrix-the-procedure-for-competency-development-and-to-become-effective/

19. HSoftware (Putting HSoftware Model to Work for You) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/11/10/hsoftware-putting-hsoftware-model-to-work-for-you/

Get Your Copy of the Book “HSoftware”

Get your copy of the book titled “HSoftware (The Only Key to Higher Effectiveness)” or HSoftware (Shyam Bhatawdekar’s Effectiveness Model) from Amazon online. If you are a kindleunlimited, KOLL or amazonprime subscriber, you can read free.

Books Suggested for Your Professional, Personal and Organizational Libraries (All the titles listed below are available as paperbacks and eBooks online from Amazon- you can read the ebooks absolutely free if you are kindleunlimited, KOLL or Amazon Prime subscribers)

Management, Business, Self-help and Personality Development Books

  1. HSoftware (Human Software) (The Only Key to Higher Effectiveness)
  2. Sensitive Stories of Corporate World (Management Case Studies)
  3. Sensitive Stories of Corporate World (Volume 2) (Management Case Studies)
  4. Sensitive Stories of Corporate World (Volume 1 &  2 Combined) (Management Case Studies)
  5. Classic Management Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers
  6. Classic Management Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers (Volume 2)
  7. Classic Team Building Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers
  8. 101 Classic Management Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers
  9. Stress? No Way!! (Handbook on Stress Management)
  10. HSoftware (Shyam Bhatawdekar’s Effectiveness Model)
  11. Competency Management (Competency Matrix and Competencies)
  12. Soft Skills You Can’t Do Without (Goal Setting, Time Management, Assertiveness and Anger Management)
  13. Essentials of Work Study (Method Study and Work Measurement)
  14. Essentials of Time Management (Taking Control of Your Life)
  15. Essentials of 5S Housekeeping
  16. Essentials of Quality Circles
  17. Essentials of Goal Setting
  18. Essentials of Anger Management
  19. Essentials of Assertive Behavior
  20. Essentials of Performance Management and Performance Appraisal
  21. Health Essentials (Health Is Wealth)
  22. Essentials of Effective Communication
  23. The Romance of Intimacy (How to Enhance Intimacy in a Relationship?)

Novels, Stories, Biographies and Travelogues

  1. The Peace Crusaders (Novel: how the peace crusaders established permanent peace on a war strewn planet?)
  2. Love Knows No Bounds (Novel: a refreshingly different love story. Also available with the title “Good People”)
  3. Funny (and Not So Funny) Short Stories
  4. Stories Children Will Love (Volume 1: Bhanu-Shanu-Kaju-Biju and Dholu Ram Gadbad Singh)
  5. My Father (Biography)
  6. Travelogue: Scandinavia, Russia
  7. Travelogue: Europe
  8. सीमाओं के परे: एक अलग प्रेम कहानी
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HSoftware (Competency Matrix: The Procedure for Competency Development and to Become Effective)

We have seen in earlier 17 posts that without the implementation of the learned and acquired HSoftware that is good in quality and quantity, one cannot become effective. Just keeping HSoftware housed in one’s own mind is not good enough. You need to put it into practice for becoming effective.

It is also important to understand that no one can learn and master all the good HSoftware and convert it into implementable and proficient competencies and skills in one’s entire life time.

Therefore one will have to choose what kind of specific HSoftware one wishes to pick up and then based on it what kind of competencies and skills one should develop and master.

Since everyone’s aim is to become effective and successful in his personal, family, professional and social spheres and since these spheres will be different for different people, each one will have to literally handpick his own HSoftware. It will be disastrous if one person copies or apes the other person in his matter of choices.

Therefore, each person should adopt the following procedure for acquisition of appropriate HSoftware for himself and for development and mastery of the required skills and competencies:

1. First step is to do an exercise in goal setting and target setting. One should decide what kind of goals he aims to achieve in the various aspects of his personal, family, professional and social life. Ask questions like: what are my destinations, where I want to reach ultimately? Work out your short term, medium term, long term and the life time goals. The zeroed in goals should satisfy the SMART criteria of goal setting (Your goals should be S- specific, M- measurable, A- agreed, R- realistic and T- timed) (You will benefit more in your goal/target setting exercise if you refer this link: http://goal-target-setting.blogspot.com).

2. Then analyze and decide what kind of HSoftware I need to acquire and learn to help me achieve my goals, to help me reach my destinations. I must remember that HSoftware consists of four fundamental elements: values, knowledge, paradigms and will to do. I must decide which values, what all knowledge, what kinds of paradigms and what intensity of internal motivation I must possess to become more effective in steering myself towards my goals, my destinations.

3. Based on this HSoftware, I should develop an inventory of all the competencies and skills I will need to acquire, practice, master and use regularly in order to carry out all the tasks and activities that will be required to start moving towards my objectives, my destinations and finally reaching there.

4. I can do well by appropriately classifying these identified competencies and grouping them together accordingly. The following classifications can be made:

  • Behavioral or soft competencies.
  • Technical competencies/hard competencies
  • Managerial competencies (competencies of getting things done through others)

There could be other alternate ways for classifying competencies as given below:

  • Competencies for individual excellence or for managing self.
  • Competencies for interpersonal relations.
  • Managerial competencies which can be further classified as: 1. Organizational. 2. Role related and 3. People related.
  • Functional or technical competencies.
  • Information related competencies.

(We are giving here some links that you may like to refer for a comprehensive inventory of soft competencies: (Soft Skills) http://soft-skills-competencies.blogspot.com/, (Life Skills) http://life-skills-competencies.blogspot.com/, (Soft Skills/Competencies: Details of Each Competency) http://soft-competencies-skills.blogspot.com/)

5. Each competency, in turn, will have its levels of proficiencies. They should be identified.

6. Clear explanations of each level of each competency should be written down. These levels are given different labels as per their needs. Some examples are given below:

  • In one instance, these proficiency levels for each competency are graded as: oh-oh, so-so, good and great.
  • In the other instance they are termed as: baseline, collaborative productivity, ownership, managing complexity and expert.
  • In yet another instance simply put them as: level 1, level 2, level 3 and level 4.

7. Then, for each of my goals to be achieved in each sphere of my life (personal, family, professional and social) I should check out if I have identified all the competencies with their required proficiency levels. If need be I will put them in a matrix form. I will call this matrix as my “competency matrix”.

8. Having created competency matrix for my goals, I should examine my current competencies and the expertise levels I have achieved in them. Then I should evaluate them against the desired competencies and their proficiency levels. I will call this process competency mapping. I am mapping my existing competencies against the desired competencies required for achieving my goals. This way I will measure the gaps in the desired and the actual competencies.

9. Once the gaps in competencies and proficiency levels are known, the gap analysis is carried out. The analysis focuses on the further development of my competencies rather than trying to pin me down for my lacunae in competencies. Therefore, I will find out the reasons for the gaps objectively and then I will decide the further course of action to remove these gaps and implement that action plan.

10. I will not bother to look at those skills/competencies which are not appearing in my competency matrix though they may look good or my friends may be good at them. I should not waste my energy and time in picking them up or improving them. If I work on them, I will reach only to a mediocre level from my existing poor level. However, if I concentrate on my competency matrix, I will go from strength to strength and in the same period of time, I will reach the excellence level. So, I should not attempt to become mediocre in the skills/competencies not required by me for my successes but become excellent in all the skills/competencies required by me for my success.

11. I will have to work on this model quite frequently, say once or twice every year of my life. There will be changes in profile of jobs, technology, social activities, family demands, business practices and many other things and that will impact on my competency matrix.

12. I know that I will be able to achieve the excellence in any skill or competency only if I rehearse or practice the learned skill a large number of times. Knowledge alone is no guarantee for achieving great levels in skills or competencies.

I know the fact that only if you start swimming, you will become a swimmer; mere knowledge of swimming or great theories of swimming will not automatically make you even an ordinary swimmer. Knowledge surely helps and is a must but without doing, it is of no use to you. If you wish to become a good teacher, start teaching the subject you know well. If you want to become an actor, start acting. Seek roles in movies or dramas or TV shows and keep refining your acting by doing it and also applying your knowledge in doing it better. If your desire is to become an author, start writing. Write something every day. And use your knowledge to write even better. Doing is what makes you what you wish to become, knowledge alone does not.

Implementation of knowledge is the name of the game. Wisdom is in knowing what to do and how to do but the virtue is doing it.

And then by practicing or doing it again and again you should be able to reach the highest level of proficiency and become “unconsciously competent” (the term we used in the 14th post titled “Levels of Competencies”).

For greater and consistent success in life, you should try to reach the unconsciously competent level in the skills required by you for your professional, personal, family and social activities/tasks/projects.

Related Posts (please read in the following order)

1. HSoftware (Human Beings: Hardware and Software): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/02/hsoftware/

2. HSoftware (Evey Human Being Is Unique): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/05/hsoftware-every-human-being-is-unique/

3. HSoftware (Why This Uniqueness?): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/07/hsoftware-why-this-uniqueness/

4. HSoftware (Uniqueness and Effectiveness): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/11/hsoftware-uniqueness-and-effectiveness/ 

5. HSoftware (Fundamental Constituents of HSoftware): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/19/hsoftware-fundamental-constituents-of-hsoftware/

6. HSoftware (More Correct HSoftware Gives Better Effectiveness) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/05/29/hsoftware-more-correct-hsoftware-gives-better-effectiveness/

7. HSoftware (Human Beliefs or Human Value Structure: First Element of HSoftware) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/06/09/hsoftware-human-beliefs-or-human-value-structure-first-element-of-hsoftware/

8. HSoftware (Knowledge and Information Base: Second Element of HSoftware)  http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/06/15/hsoftware-knowledge-and-information-base-second-element-of-hsoftware/

9. HSoftware (Paradigms, Mindsets or Thinking Patterns: Third Element of HSoftware)  http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/06/26/hsoftware-paradigms-mindsets-or-thinking-patterns-third-element-of-hsoftware/

10. HSoftware (More on Paradigms and Paradigm Shift) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/07/10/hsoftware-more-on-paradigms-and-paradigm-shift/

11. HSoftware (Willpower to Do: Fourth Element of HSoftware)   http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/07/26/hsoftware-willpower-to-do-fourth-element-of-hsoftware/

12. HSoftware (Acquisition of the HSoftware) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/08/06/hsoftware-acquisition-of-the-hsoftware/

13. HSoftware (Change for Better): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/08/20/hsoftware-change-for-better/

14. HSoftware (More on Change in Paradigms) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/08/27/hsoftware-more-on-change-in-paradigms/

15. HSoftware (Effectiveness: All about Willpower to Learn; Acquiring Values, Knowledge and Paradigms; Willpower to Do)  http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/09/08/hsoftware-effectiveness-all-about-willpower-to-learn-acquiring-values-knowledge-and-paradigms-willpower-to-do/

16. HSoftware (Levels of Competencies) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/09/24/hsoftware-levels-of-competencies/

17. HSoftware (Soft Skills- Applied Emotional Intelligence) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/10/22/hsoftware-soft-skills-applied-emotional-intelligence/

18. HSoftware (Competency Matrix: The Procedure for Competency Development and to Become Effective) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/11/08/hsoftware-competency-matrix-the-procedure-for-competency-development-and-to-become-effective/

Get Your Copy of the Book “HSoftware”

Get your copy of the book titled “HSoftware (The Only Key to Higher Effectiveness)” or HSoftware (Shyam Bhatawdekar’s Effectiveness Model) from Amazon online. If you are a kindleunlimited, KOLL or amazonprime subscriber, you can read free.

Books Suggested for Your Professional, Personal and Organizational Libraries (All the titles listed below are available as paperbacks and eBooks online from Amazon- you can read the ebooks absolutely free if you are kindleunlimited, KOLL or Amazon Prime subscribers)

Management, Business, Self-help and Personality Development Books

  1. HSoftware (Human Software) (The Only Key to Higher Effectiveness)
  2. Sensitive Stories of Corporate World (Management Case Studies)
  3. Sensitive Stories of Corporate World (Volume 2) (Management Case Studies)
  4. Sensitive Stories of Corporate World (Volume 1 &  2 Combined) (Management Case Studies)
  5. Classic Management Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers
  6. Classic Management Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers (Volume 2)
  7. Classic Team Building Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers
  8. 101 Classic Management Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers
  9. Stress? No Way!! (Handbook on Stress Management)
  10. HSoftware (Shyam Bhatawdekar’s Effectiveness Model)
  11. Competency Management (Competency Matrix and Competencies)
  12. Soft Skills You Can’t Do Without (Goal Setting, Time Management, Assertiveness and Anger Management)
  13. Essentials of Work Study (Method Study and Work Measurement)
  14. Essentials of Time Management (Taking Control of Your Life)
  15. Essentials of 5S Housekeeping
  16. Essentials of Quality Circles
  17. Essentials of Goal Setting
  18. Essentials of Anger Management
  19. Essentials of Assertive Behavior
  20. Essentials of Performance Management and Performance Appraisal
  21. Health Essentials (Health Is Wealth)
  22. Essentials of Effective Communication
  23. The Romance of Intimacy (How to Enhance Intimacy in a Relationship?)

Novels, Stories, Biographies and Travelogues

  1. The Peace Crusaders (Novel: how the peace crusaders established permanent peace on a war strewn planet?)
  2. Love Knows No Bounds (Novel: a refreshingly different love story. Also available with the title “Good People”)
  3. Funny (and Not So Funny) Short Stories
  4. Stories Children Will Love (Volume 1: Bhanu-Shanu-Kaju-Biju and Dholu Ram Gadbad Singh)
  5. My Father (Biography)
  6. Travelogue: Scandinavia, Russia
  7. Travelogue: Europe
  8. सीमाओं के परे: एक अलग प्रेम कहानी
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HSoftware (Soft Skills- Applied Emotional Intelligence)

Earlier, we have emphasized the importance of acquiring and mastering the skills. We had also mentioned that broadly there are two types of skills:

  • Hard skills and
  • Soft skills

Hard skills are important and you should never undermine them. They are your bread and butter skills. For example, a tourist guide has to know the technical aspects of his job like showing his tourists the right places in a proper sequence with authentic commentary on them, the legalities of his job, the safety aspect of his tourists etc, yet, he will be more in demand and earn more if he also has the necessary soft skills for the job like manners and etiquette, interpersonal relations with tourists, humor, creativity etc.

Hard skills are more rational types and soft skills improve your emotional intelligence. Soft skills make you more cultured, empathic, understanding, caring and also, more sophisticated and reformed.

You must try to find out what soft skills you should choose to acquire and develop for success in your personal, professional, family and social life.

We are giving below a fairly comprehensive list of soft skills for your guidance.

  1. Observation.
  2. Know yourself (introspection).
  3. Openness and flexibility (paradigm shifting).
  4. Internal motivation and passion.
  5. Action orientation, drive and self initiation.
  6. Self development.
  7. Self confidence.
  8. Assertiveness.
  9. Integrity.
  10. Trustworthiness.
  11. Composure and self presentation (appearance, manners and etiquette).
  12. Intellectual horsepower and learning.
  13. Creativity and innovation.
  14. Conviction.
  15. Moral courage.
  16. Dependability and reliability.
  17. Dealing with ambiguity.
  18. Time management.
  19. Goal setting and result orientation.
  20. Decision making.
  21. Problem solving and process orientation.
  22. Organizing.
  23. Coordinating.
  24. Delegation.
  25. Communication (speaking, listening, empathy, body language, writing).
  26. Interpersonal skills.
  27. Negotiation.
  28. Conflict management.
  29. Presentation.
  30. Convincing.
  31. Coaching and developing people.
  32. Counseling.
  33. Mentoring.
  34. Team work.
  35. Team building.
  36. Consensus building.
  37. Conducting meetings.
  38. Leading.
  39. Big picture thinking and strategic thinking.
  40. Motivating others.
  41. Controlling.
  42. Safety.
  43. Stress management.

Go through the above list very carefully and tick out the soft skills where you need to pull up yourself. Then, you have to go through the cycle of gaining authentic knowledge of that skill, understanding the process (the SOP) of building that skill, practicing that skill following the process (SOP), practicing it, practicing it and practicing it till you get the mastery over that skill, till that skills gets internalized in you; it becomes your habit (we wrote about this model of skill building in some details earlier also, in the 11th post on HSoftware).

Soft skills are important though difficult to learn and master.

One can master writing a code in a particular computer language, one can master playing tennis or basket ball or golf, one can master a specific classical dance, one can master singing, one can master acting, one can master cooking a recipe, one can master judo, kung fu or karate, one can master painting, one can master opening and assembling a machine or equipment but mastering soft skills is very difficult.

People work for hours and months and years to acquire, learn, practice and master the hard skills or technical skills or external skills.

However, most people don’t even appreciate that there is something to learn and practice and master in soft skills. For most of the people, the soft skills just happen; you don’t have to learn them. They think that some people are good at them because they are gifted with them as if it’s out of some genetic or psychic determination. And then they say, “He is naturally good in maintaining great relationships with people, I just can’t be doing that; I am just not cut out for it. I generally mess up my relations with many people.” “He is a born speaker, I am not that talented.” “He has a way to negotiate to resolve conflicts, I create more problems.”

These expressions are not mere clichés; people say them with all their seriousness and sound a bit pathetic and diffident towards themselves that they can’t be so good at these things. The truth is that there is hardly any genetic or psychic determination here. The people good at soft skills have mastered the soft skills by working at them for hours and years together.

A child learns to communicate (soft skill) when he is around one year of age and it does not happen to him automatically. The child has tremendous desire to learn speaking and then he puts tremendous efforts in developing his vocabulary of words, phrases and sentences with body language, gestures and grunts. And as the child grows over the years he picks up the right ways of speaking as well as the wrong ways of speaking. When he does with the right kind of things, he speaks well and impresses but if he does with wrong things, he derates. The one who keeps correcting and practices more and more the right ways of speaking becomes a good and effective speaker. The one who does not correct himself and does not learn the right ways of speaking falls behind in the soft skill called “speaking”. So soft skill is necessarily an outcome of the desire-knowledge-practice-habit model described earlier.

Related Posts (please read in the following order)

1. HSoftware (Human Beings: Hardware and Software): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/02/hsoftware/

2. HSoftware (Evey Human Being Is Unique): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/05/hsoftware-every-human-being-is-unique/

3. HSoftware (Why This Uniqueness?): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/07/hsoftware-why-this-uniqueness/

4. HSoftware (Uniqueness and Effectiveness): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/11/hsoftware-uniqueness-and-effectiveness/ 

5. HSoftware (Fundamental Constituents of HSoftware): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/04/19/hsoftware-fundamental-constituents-of-hsoftware/

6. HSoftware (More Correct HSoftware Gives Better Effectiveness) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/05/29/hsoftware-more-correct-hsoftware-gives-better-effectiveness/

7. HSoftware (Human Beliefs or Human Value Structure: First Element of HSoftware) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/06/09/hsoftware-human-beliefs-or-human-value-structure-first-element-of-hsoftware/

8. HSoftware (Knowledge and Information Base: Second Element of HSoftware)  http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/06/15/hsoftware-knowledge-and-information-base-second-element-of-hsoftware/

9. HSoftware (Paradigms, Mindsets or Thinking Patterns: Third Element of HSoftware)  http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/06/26/hsoftware-paradigms-mindsets-or-thinking-patterns-third-element-of-hsoftware/

10. HSoftware (More on Paradigms and Paradigm Shift) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/07/10/hsoftware-more-on-paradigms-and-paradigm-shift/

11. HSoftware (Willpower to Do: Fourth Element of HSoftware)   http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/07/26/hsoftware-willpower-to-do-fourth-element-of-hsoftware/

12. HSoftware (Acquisition of the HSoftware) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/08/06/hsoftware-acquisition-of-the-hsoftware/

13. HSoftware (Change for Better): http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/08/20/hsoftware-change-for-better/

14. HSoftware (More on Change in Paradigms) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/08/27/hsoftware-more-on-change-in-paradigms/

15. HSoftware (Effectiveness: All about Willpower to Learn; Acquiring Values, Knowledge and Paradigms; Willpower to Do)  http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/09/08/hsoftware-effectiveness-all-about-willpower-to-learn-acquiring-values-knowledge-and-paradigms-willpower-to-do/

16. HSoftware (Levels of Competencies) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/09/24/hsoftware-levels-of-competencies/

17. HSoftware (Soft Skills- Applied Emotional Intelligence) http://shyam.bhatawdekar.net/index.php/2018/10/22/hsoftware-soft-skills-applied-emotional-intelligence/

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Books Suggested for Your Professional, Personal and Organizational Libraries (All the titles listed below are available as paperbacks and eBooks online from Amazon- you can read the ebooks absolutely free if you are kindleunlimited, KOLL or Amazon Prime subscribers)

Management, Business, Self-help and Personality Development Books

  1. HSoftware (Human Software) (The Only Key to Higher Effectiveness)
  2. Sensitive Stories of Corporate World (Management Case Studies)
  3. Sensitive Stories of Corporate World (Volume 2) (Management Case Studies)
  4. Sensitive Stories of Corporate World (Volume 1 &  2 Combined) (Management Case Studies)
  5. Classic Management Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers
  6. Classic Management Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers (Volume 2)
  7. Classic Team Building Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers
  8. 101 Classic Management Games, Exercises, Energizers and Icebreakers
  9. Stress? No Way!! (Handbook on Stress Management)
  10. HSoftware (Shyam Bhatawdekar’s Effectiveness Model)
  11. Competency Management (Competency Matrix and Competencies)
  12. Soft Skills You Can’t Do Without (Goal Setting, Time Management, Assertiveness and Anger Management)
  13. Essentials of Work Study (Method Study and Work Measurement)
  14. Essentials of Time Management (Taking Control of Your Life)
  15. Essentials of 5S Housekeeping
  16. Essentials of Quality Circles
  17. Essentials of Goal Setting
  18. Essentials of Anger Management
  19. Essentials of Assertive Behavior
  20. Essentials of Performance Management and Performance Appraisal
  21. Health Essentials (Health Is Wealth)
  22. Essentials of Effective Communication
  23. The Romance of Intimacy (How to Enhance Intimacy in a Relationship?)

Novels, Stories, Biographies and Travelogues

  1. The Peace Crusaders (Novel: how the peace crusaders established permanent peace on a war strewn planet?)
  2. Love Knows No Bounds (Novel: a refreshingly different love story. Also available with the title “Good People”)
  3. Funny (and Not So Funny) Short Stories
  4. Stories Children Will Love (Volume 1: Bhanu-Shanu-Kaju-Biju and Dholu Ram Gadbad Singh)
  5. My Father (Biography)
  6. Travelogue: Scandinavia, Russia
  7. Travelogue: Europe
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